Me-Time: The Secret of This Happy Mom

“A HAPPY MOMMY = A HAPPY FAMILY”

 That’s how the saying goes.  And yes, we are surrounded by our children, the ones we love with all our hearts and for whom we do anything in the world.  Right.  Our children make us happy.  Awesome.  What about those days that nothing gets done simply because someone is hungry, has a tummy ache, wants more to drink, “NOOO!!!  Not THAT drink!!!”, lost his toy, and as you help him look for it, you discover that the young one stuck both hands in the back of his diaper and is using the contents of what he just produced in there as finger paint!!!  So, let’s re-visit your “Happiness Level”: how’s that looking now?

A few weeks ago I wrote about the 24-hour get away I had with my husband.  Unfortunately, those getaways are very few and far in between, so Mama needs something else to recharge and maintain regain her sanity once in a while.

It’s called: Me Time.

Mommy Self CarePhoto by: Lin Eleoff

 

I am married to a self-employed artist, so the 9 to 5 job is non-existent in our household.  Work schedules are flexible and sometimes they become a bit too flexible.  So, over the past few years I have set a few boundaries, which I deemed necessary to preserve our relationship, not only as husband and wife, but also as parents and as individuals.  My husband has a weekly get together with his best friend during which they take the dogs for a long walk in the mountains and catch up on everything from work to life.  Awesome, good for them!  Now, even though I don’t have a friend with whom I go for long hikes in the mountains, I still need my sanity time.  At times I enjoy spending that with friends and at other times I am dying to spend it alone.

This is where my weekly “Me Time” comes in: every week, I take a block of 2 hours that is for me ME.  It does not involve me running to the grocery store, it doesn’t include my weekly work out either.  It is 2 hours in which I leave the house and have NO responsibilities towards anyone.  (It’s an AWESOME concept, I promise!)  Sometimes I go to Barnes and Noble and browse through drool over (food) magazines and/or cookbooks.  Other times I sit at Starbucks and enjoy a Frappuccino (with whipped cream and Extra Extra Caramel) while watching people.  Fascinating!!!  Ikea browsing is another one that is on my fun-list, or shopping for a home accessory (or clothing piece) that I’ve had my eye on for a while.  Whatever it is, it takes place away from the house, as to not be reminded of anything I have to / should do.

Believe it or not, but the majority of the times, the 2 hours have a magical effect.  I enjoy returning home, cannot wait for the kids to exclaim “Mama!!!  You’re home!!” and come over and hug me so hard, I lose my balance.  Okay, I often wish I could have 10 days on a deserted island somewhere in the tropics, swaying back and forth in a hammock while holding some fruity cocktail with an umbrella, but overall, the 2 hours really do the trick.

Now, it’s one thing to resolve that you’re going to have the 2 hours of Me Time per week, but it’s a completely different thing to also realize it.  As I said, with flexible hours around the house, our calendar fills up quickly and I have thus found it absolutely necessary to schedule my Me Time.  If I don’t schedule it, I don’t get it.  So, in the calendar it goes, together with dentist & doctor’s appointments, school and play dates.

After all:

“A HAPPY MOMMY = A HAPPY FAMILY”

For next week, be on the lookout for a guest post of one of my best friends (who is also an amazing writer) and who elaborates on the exploration of the “relaxation concept”.

 

Until next time,

Savor food, savor family, savor life.
- Marieke, aka HRH Mommy

 

Share Your Thoughts:

Do you have special “Me Time” allotted in your schedule?  Tell me how it came about, how you spend it and how it helps you!

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